100.

Kas
Apr 1
4 min read

Updated: Apr 13

Apparently this is my 100th post.

I didn’t know that until like five minutes ago.

I was in the dashboard doing normal behind-the-scenes stuff and noticed the number sitting there at 99. And for a second I thought I was reading it wrong. I wasn’t building toward this. There was no countdown. No “road to 100” content plan. It just… happened.

Which honestly feels very on brand for me.

When I started this blog, I didn’t have a long-term strategy. I didn’t sit down and think, “Yes, I’m going to build an archive of one hundred essays about my life.” I just needed somewhere to put my thoughts. Somewhere they could exist outside my head. Somewhere they could be honest.

That was it.

Some of these posts were written on really good days. Some were written when I felt completely underwater. Some were chaos. Some were soft. Some were me trying to make sense of things I probably still don’t fully understand.

But I hit publish. One hundred times. That part feels bigger than the number.

Because if I’m being honest, I don’t have a track record of sticking with things just to stick with them. My life hasn’t exactly been stable. There have been seasons where everything felt like it was shifting underneath me. Relationships changing. Identity shifting. Old trauma resurfacing. New chapters starting whether I felt ready or not.

And through all of that, this blog stayed.

Not because it was easy. Not because it blew up. Not because it made me money. Not because it gave me constant validation.

It stayed because I needed it.

This space has been a place where I could process out loud. Where I could unpack grief. Where I could talk about foster care and trauma and identity and love and feeling lost at 35 without watering it down to make other people comfortable.

It’s also been a place where I could be light. Where I could talk about cats and chaos and the random things that make up an actual life.

When I scroll back to earlier posts, I can see the shifts. I can see where I was angrier. Where I was more defensive. Where I was trying to convince myself I was fine. I can see when I started softening. When I started choosing better. When I started actually healing instead of just surviving.

That’s the part that gets me.

Because if I hadn’t written it down, I would’ve forgotten.

I would’ve rewritten my own history in my head the way we all do.

I would’ve convinced myself that I’ve always been this version of me. Or that I’ve never changed at all.

But the archive doesn’t lie.

There are one hundred pieces of evidence that I’ve been evolving in real time.

And that feels… grounding.

There were posts I almost didn’t publish. Posts that felt too personal. Posts that made me nervous. Posts where I thought, “Maybe this is too much.” But I kept reminding myself that this blog was never supposed to be performative. It was supposed to be honest.

And honesty sometimes makes people uncomfortable. Including me.

I think about the version of me who wrote the very first post. She didn’t know if anyone would read it. She didn’t know if she’d stick with it. She didn’t know she’d eventually be writing about losing her dad at four or being in foster care or questioning who she’d be without trauma.

She just knew she needed somewhere to put her voice.

And now there are one hundred posts.

One hundred timestamps of who I was on random Tuesdays and heavy Sundays and quiet nights where I probably should’ve been sleeping instead of writing.

When I scroll back to the first posts from two years ago, I can see how different I was. Not in a dramatic “completely new person” way. But enough.

Different fears. Different relationship dynamics. Different things keeping me up at night.

This blog hasn’t existed forever. It’s only been two years. But in two years, a lot can happen.

Friendships shift. Relationships evolve. You fall apart a little and put yourself back together in a slightly different shape. You think you know who you are, and then something forces you to reassess.

And through all of that, this space stayed consistent.

Not ancient. Not legendary. Just steady.

Two years of me showing up when I could have easily abandoned it like I’ve abandoned other things when life got loud.

That’s wild to think about.

It’s not viral. It’s not massive. It’s not polished in a corporate way.

But it’s mine.

And if I’m being really honest, that might be the most stable thing I’ve built for myself.

Not because it’s perfect. But because I keep coming back to it.

I don’t know if I’ll write one hundred more. I don’t know what the next year looks like. I don’t know what I’ll be unpacking at post 137 or 162 or 203.

But I do know that this space has become part of how I process being alive.

And I’m weirdly proud of that.

Not in a loud way. Just in a quiet, I-didn’t-quit kind of way.

So yeah.

Apparently this is post number 100.

No big speech. No dramatic announcement. Just me noticing it and realizing that, somehow, I kept showing up.

And that counts for something.

If you’ve been here for one post or fifty or all of them, thank you. And if you’ve just been quietly reading without ever saying anything, that’s okay too. I see you.

Here’s to whatever comes next.

100 posts later and I’m still not done saying what I need to say.

talk soon, kas

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